ACTIVITY 6

• EMMYLISA SHAMANEY ANAK AJAN (72903)

My name is Emmylisa Shamaney Anak Ajan. I was born at Hospital Besar Lawas on November 4th of year 1999. I have 8 siblings in total, 5 girls and 3 boys. I am the fourth child. My father’s name is Ajan Anak Renang. He is 54 years old and work as ‘Penghulu’ at our village. My mother’s name is Lusi Peter. She is a full-time housewife and she is 45 years old. My family race is Iban. I am actually half iban and half bisaya. My late birth mother is Bisaya and her name is Linda anak Nyambong. She died when I was 7 years old because of unknown disease. They told me that she died because of heart attack, that’s what I remembered. But, I am grateful to have my step mother as my mother as she take care each one of us with love.

We are not local, which means we are not originally lawasian as my father in the 90’s travelled from his hometown to Lawas. He came to Lawas to find a job and settled down since then. He found a village named after him and built a longhouse where I lived now. I studied for UPSR at Sekolah Kebangsaan Merapok in primary school. I was in grade 1 when I started school there in year of 2006 and graduated in 2011. I was quite athletic in primary school since I was an athlete. I was also school prefects when I was in grade 5 and grade 6. I graduated with quite satisfying result.

I then continue my studies in Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan Merapok where I finished my PT3 in 2014 and SPM in 2016. I was not satisfied with my PT3 result but praise the Lord my SPM result was good, enough to get me to continue my studies in form 6 at the same high school. I was actually a bit surprise to see my result since I was not a smart student, all I did was escaped classes but I did do revision and studied for the very last minute.

I’ve got many life goals. There’s no specific goal that I wanted to achieve. I’ve always said that I wanted to graduate with good pointer, then continue my studies in master of counselling. Then I’ll get a good job and have my own money to buy a house and a car or maybe cars. I’ll take my whole family to vacation because that’s always on my wish lists.

My motto? I always said that I’m going to live each days of my life to the fullest. Being sad, angry, or disappointed are common but I rather live happily each day. There are people whom are pressure to be the best or do the best but I do not like to pressure myself. It’s kind a torture to have myself pressure over something. Although sometimes pressure is something that you need to push yourself further but I just cannot deal with it. I’m quite a rebel. Debasish Mridha said that “If you do not enjoy the moment, you lost it forever. If you enjoy it, it is yours forever”. So I’m going to enjoy every moment of my life.

MILESTONES

I went to vacation at Malacca in year of 2017. Took about 1 hour to reach there by car from Kajang, Selangor where I lived with my sister. Malacca is a city that full with historical monuments, breath-taking sights and rich heritage. Malacca is the historic capital where Malaya’s first Prime Minister, Tunku Abdul Razak announced independence, free from colonizers. Firstly, I went to the Jonker Street which is the centre street of Chinatown. Jonker street is the best place for it is night market, antique shops, crafts outlets and as well as restaurants. I had my dinner at some place in Jonker Street where they have live band there. It was really fun and calming at the same time. I’ve also visited Christ Church that was built by the Dutch when they took possession of Malacca from Portuguese. There were also lots of colorful trishaws. I went for a cruise and took a lot of pictures for memories.

In year of 2017, I also received good news where I got accepted to further my studies in Form 6 at Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan Merapok. I chose to continue my study in form 6 was because it’s easier to further my studies in degree within short time. When I was in form 6, I was not really good student. I slept a lot, studied last minute for exam, and escape classes. I am not a bad student; I still respect my teachers and do my homework. It’s just that I was quite free spirit and a bit rebellious. I then graduated with not quite satisfying result.

To realize what your passion is one of most important milestones in achieving self-actualization. I’ve heard a lot of my friends are passionate about their studies, they wanted to graduate with good result and get a job. In my case, that is my dreams? Or my vision? What I passionate about am travel, photograph and fashion. I’ve always love traveling, to visit places I’ve never been before and to explore world’s beauties. Then I’ll take a lot of amazing pictures of nature and of course pictures of myself too. Fashion is something that I always love, I really love beautiful outfits. All of this, I’ll achieve it when my dreams come true. I’ll work hard to achieve what I always wanted.

I applied for B40 program that UNIMAS has offered. Happy cannot describe how I was felt when I got accepted to continue my studies in degree at UNIMAS. I’ve never been away from my family for a verily long period. It was quite difficult to adapt at first and do everything on my own. But, I need to learn how to be independent. During the first semester, at first it was really hard to adapt with all courses because all of that are new to me. The subjects and the assignments I found myself were slow at understanding it. After sometimes, I able to adapt and I was doing fine. Lots of hurdle but the end result of my hard work pays off.

REFLECTION

Erikson’s theory is one of most popular and influential theories of development. There are 8 stages in his theories that made up.  Most of my milestones include vacation, career and education was in my adolescence. According to the stages in Erikson’s theory, I am currently in the sixth stage which is ‘Intimacy vs Isolation’ stage. In this stage, I face a developmental conflict. This needed me to solve it so I will not struggle in my young adulthood life.  During this stage, Erikson said that people develop close and committed relationships with other people. There’s success relationship and failure relationship.

In my case, I am committing to long-term relationship with someone who has a clear plan for our future and both should have sense of commitment. At my age now, playing games aren’t really my thing. I also had a group of great and nice friends since we were in primary and high school. I hope to find a great partner who able to love me until the end of my life and we will grow old together.

CONCLUSION

In conclusion, each individual has their own book with their own life stories. It includes story of their happy and sad moments, hardships, life challenges and maybe love story. One’s should has their own way in writing a story. As Maya Angelou said, “Our stories come from our lives and from the playwright’s pen, the mind of the actor, the role we create, the artistry of life itself and the quest for peace”.